Tuesday, April 17, 2007

Maturity

Assalamualaikum & Good Day,

"Define maturity?", was the question.

I realized that i dont even know how to answer that. Offcourse you can always look into a dictionary. But is it relevant? Dont think so lah. The dictionary defines things literally. In real life, we cant really rely on meanings defined by dictionary, betul tak? Or else you'll get confused.

Some people say that you are matured when you reach puberty age. Ye ke? A little bit lah kan. Puberty is just a stage where you are sexually matured. Meaning you can kawen oredi. But are you really matured?. Dont think so....

Some people say, maturity is when you are able to think 'out of the box'. Ye ke? Maybe. But the ability to think out of the box could also mean that you are an intelligent or maybe creative person. Could an intelligent & creative person be considered matured? Not necessarily...

Some people say, career wise, you are matured when you aim for a job that offers the highest satisfaction instead of highest salary. True also lah. Money means nothing if you are not happy with your job. I learned this 3 years ago when i switched from private to government. Then i was earning around 3k when i realized that my job SUCK. It was fun, but at the same time SUCK.

Joining the government was a gamble. I had to face a 1k pay cut. Risau jugak lah masa tuh. But after 3 years, i have no regrets, i'm happy with the gomen. Gaji ciput but hati happy :P

Whatever it is, to me, you are considered matured when you are able to taper off your selfishness. To me, this could be achieved in marriage. Marriage is about sharing and caring. You need to have these two traits in order to succeed in marriage. So if your marriage is rock solid, then you are considered matured.

Take me for instance, i'm a KFC junkie. Dolu-dolu when i was single and still in KL, i will stop by at KFC KLCC every friday after prayer just to makan KFC (patut la gemok!!).

But now, everytime i have that want-to-eat-KFC feeling, the mature side of me will say, "kalo aku makan sorang-sorang kesian mama & alip tak merasa, takpe lah tunggu weekend la"

or whenever i had that rasa-cam-nak-minum-ice blendedlah feeling, the mature side of me will say. "daripada aku beli air nih, baik la aku beli susu alip"

or during Hari Raya when people are buying baju raya like crazy, I'd say, "aku takyah beli lah, baik belikan untuk mama & alip". my wife had to paksa me to beli baru la aku beli. It's not that i dont have money. I just feel that my needs are not as important as it used to be. I feel that when my family is happy i'm happy. And that's enough for me.

so ladies and gentlemen, that is MY definition of maturity. Korang punya tatau la. Terpulang lah. Whatever that makes u happy :)

7 comments:

zeedayazid said...

omg u sound SO matured ok. terharu aku baca. bagus. at least i know i have one matured fren. yg lain belum tunjuk lagi kematuran mereka so i leave it to the jury to decide.

after reading ur post, i don't think i'm matured enuf yet. i'm still quite selfish. i still want that lovely pair of shoes or that handbag on display at nine west, bought by my husband, when that money cud be well spent at other meaningful things. but then, what is "meaningful" pulak? the shoes and bags ARE meaningful, to me at least. to jim, maybe they dont mean a thing. but maybe it is meaningful to him to see his wife beam with so much happiness after getting those things, thus he gets them for her anyway. so, define meaningful.

i don't hv a kid yet, so i think i can be selfish still at times. not all the time though. just sometimes...

Azrul said...

zid > eheheh...ko tuh isteri...so no problem kalo nak suruh husband ko belikan ko barang...as long as dia bleh afford ok la...

even dalam islam pon, Duit isteri = Duit isteri, Duit suami = Duit Isteri jugak :) untungnya jadi isteri kan. tapi kena taat la beb. kalo tak neraka la jawabnya :P

"The happiest of people don't necessarily have the best of everything; they just make the most of everything that comes along their way"

zeedayazid said...

i can be synonymous with an old dog - faithful & trustworthy. taat itu adalah kacang.

hehe

konot said...

to me, maturity is when u can think rationally with dikaburi oleh emotional punya aspect. maturity also is when u learn to forgive others..

Amy said...

Azrul, nice topic. Tell me about it. Kat opis aku ni aku observe, ada yg dah jadik mak kepada 4 orang anak tapi aku tak nampak ke 'matured' nya. Still terkinja-kinja, sembahyang pun tinggal2, tak kisah. What example are we showing our kids? Or anak dah 2 orang, tapi asyik nak menang je, berebut makanan percuma macam budak umur 7 tahun.Tu belum argument about work dgn org2 yg lebih tua dari aku, dah 35 years old tapi pemikiran keje cam bebudak, buat aku hangin.
Memang la there's always a kid in us, tapi aku rasa bila kita buat decison in life, or work.. kita still kena think wisely, seiring dgn umur yg makin meningkat kan?

zyrin said...

truthfully?

i think that's a fair description of maturity. when you put the needs of others before self.

Azrul said...

zid > old dog eh...zid 'doggy' dogg :) elok la kalo ko cakap camtuh. kalo husband ko baca nih suka beno dia...

konot > Agree. always forgive but never forget:) btw, tima kacih kerana menjenguk blog hamba. terharu aku

amy > konpom la eh...maturity is not about age. sabo je la amy. nak carik ideal working environment nih memang susah. aku rasa memang takde la kot. no worries. tu suma COBAANNNN....

muzie > tq mate. mebbe ko bleh bgtau kat MO yg ko pissed off sangat ari tu tuh...