Assalamualaikum & Good Day,
"Define maturity?", was the question.
I realized that i dont even know how to answer that. Offcourse you can always look into a dictionary. But is it relevant? Dont think so lah. The dictionary defines things literally. In real life, we cant really rely on meanings defined by dictionary, betul tak? Or else you'll get confused.
Some people say that you are matured when you reach puberty age. Ye ke? A little bit lah kan. Puberty is just a stage where you are sexually matured. Meaning you can kawen oredi. But are you really matured?. Dont think so....
Some people say, maturity is when you are able to think 'out of the box'. Ye ke? Maybe. But the ability to think out of the box could also mean that you are an intelligent or maybe creative person. Could an intelligent & creative person be considered matured? Not necessarily...
Some people say, career wise, you are matured when you aim for a job that offers the highest satisfaction instead of highest salary. True also lah. Money means nothing if you are not happy with your job. I learned this 3 years ago when i switched from private to government. Then i was earning around 3k when i realized that my job SUCK. It was fun, but at the same time SUCK.
Joining the government was a gamble. I had to face a 1k pay cut. Risau jugak lah masa tuh. But after 3 years, i have no regrets, i'm happy with the gomen. Gaji ciput but hati happy :P
Whatever it is, to me, you are considered matured when you are able to taper off your selfishness. To me, this could be achieved in marriage. Marriage is about sharing and caring. You need to have these two traits in order to succeed in marriage. So if your marriage is rock solid, then you are considered matured.
Take me for instance, i'm a KFC junkie. Dolu-dolu when i was single and still in KL, i will stop by at KFC KLCC every friday after prayer just to makan KFC (patut la gemok!!).
But now, everytime i have that want-to-eat-KFC feeling, the mature side of me will say, "kalo aku makan sorang-sorang kesian mama & alip tak merasa, takpe lah tunggu weekend la"
or whenever i had that rasa-cam-nak-minum-ice blendedlah feeling, the mature side of me will say. "daripada aku beli air nih, baik la aku beli susu alip"
or during Hari Raya when people are buying baju raya like crazy, I'd say, "aku takyah beli lah, baik belikan untuk mama & alip". my wife had to paksa me to beli baru la aku beli. It's not that i dont have money. I just feel that my needs are not as important as it used to be. I feel that when my family is happy i'm happy. And that's enough for me.
so ladies and gentlemen, that is MY definition of maturity. Korang punya tatau la. Terpulang lah. Whatever that makes u happy :)